Vienna Lopez

I feel utterly disregarded and taken advantage of.

I “HAD” a friend. I used a “past tense” because there’s no more friendship between us. She’s nothing to me now but a LEECH. Yes, that’s how I see her and she cannot change it anymore.

Now that I think of the past, I realize that she chose me. Why? Because I am married to an Austrian Engineer who is friends with other European engineers. Befriending me will give her contact  to my husband colleagues. She belongs to a very poor family but I didn’t look at that. I was actually amazed by her that she managed to finish her education. She seemed nice so I befriended her and was all nice to her. I gave her clothes just so she has something nice to wear to our dinners and parties. I treated her as a friend, taught her some things, build her up, invited her to activities, and help her in any way I can.

But she planned all this—to get into my circle and find herself a rich boyfriend. On our first meeting, I warmed up to her immediately and she was all nice to me (now, that I think of it… it was more like kissing my ass). Because I am naturally friendly, I invited her in our home and to some dinners we had with my husband’s colleagues. After a while, she finally met my husband’s good friend and after two nights of meeting him, they became a couple. It was all a shock to me how easy she was but i was naive. I didn’t think for a moment (only now) how cheap that was of her. After a month, she started it–she asked money from him. It was just a small amount and nobody minded but then it happened again and again and again and after 8 months, I can’t take it anymore. She’s obviously screwing him for his money. Why would she do that? Well because she has like 6 siblings back home and she needs to support her aging parents, send two younger siblings to school, plus support her adult brothers who have their own families but are without jobs. Imagine the weight on her shoulders?!? The aging parents and the young siblings I can understand but her older brothers? She earns 500$ each month. If she send 250$ back home, it’s already a big amount and should be enough to support her parents and two younger siblings (whom, I believe, don’t have extravagant life). The remaining 250$ should be for her, for her bills and personal expenses. In China, specially the city where she lives, 250$ is more than enough for a single person. If I were her, that’s what I’d do. I would do my “obligation” to my family but I would not and never will, tolerate the laziness of my brothers. I would not hold myself responsible for them and for their family and I would not have my boyfriend support them too.

But she’s different. She sees herself as the saving grace of the whole of her clan. When I finally told her that I can’t take her gold digging( I didn’t actually use those words but yeah… that’s what I meant) anymore, she got mad. I know for sure her boyfriend is not okay with the idea that she sends HIS money to her family back home. Her boyfriend is not exactly rich but is always happy and willing to support HER… only HER and not her brothers. I told her what I think. I told her that it is not right what she does. then she said I shouldn’t mingle with their money issues! Ha! Why she’d tell me this now? She is all sweet and nice every time she asks me for a favor. They (she and her boyfriend) asked me several times to deposit money to her bank account because they are not together at the moment. He’s busy with work and can’t be bothered to deposit money to his girlfriend’s bank account so they ask me to do it for them. Their money issues were never a secret to me and now she tells me I should not mingle with their money affairs! What a thick face bitch! I am not miggling with their money affairs! I am just saying to her that what she’s doing is wrong and I don’t like to be a part of it anymore because by depositing the money to her account, I feel that I am helping her in her gold digging project and I can’t take that!

So anyway, she got mad and accused me of being envious of her because according to her, my husband does not let me do what she is doing now and that my husband is only good looking—that’s all. And to make things worse, she told a group of friends and acquaintances that I am like this. Was fuer eine Schlampe! (What a bitch!)

For one thing, I only told her what I think because I was hoping she’ll see it the way I do and will probably change. She cannot do this to her boyfriend because if they were to be together forever, they have to think of their future too. I didn’t tell her boyfriend because I don’t want him to think badly of her or of me for telling him about it. I talk to her directly about this but she’s the way she is—a gold digging bitch who will use anybody to get where she want, want she wants, when she wants. She has ambitions—to build her parents a house and send her siblings to school. Those are not bad. But I hope she’ll do it by herself and not depend on somebody to do it for her.

So now you understand. She is a leech. She shits on me now because I am no use to her anymore.

P.S. This post is unedited and uncensored. I dont normally curse and say bad words, but i think you’ll understand.

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