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I'm Getting Paranoid
I was just talking to my mom on Yahoo the other day and I told her about the ex-friend I so hate. She said that I should try to stay away from this kind of people. Then she went on and on about how she knows how difficult it is for me to finds real friends in a foreign land. She said I should not be so desperate because real friendship develops by itself. She also told me one important thing and that is; try to be friends with people who don’t need anything from you and whom you don’t need anything from. It’s the only way you can be sure that the two parties are not using each other.
After the thing with “the ex-friend”, my interest in people lessened. I didn’t know that I would be affected that much but I noticed myself losing interest in meeting new people, Filipinas particularly. Before this whole thing happened, I was really friendly and open to people especially to those who I think are from my country. I normally smile and greet them, wave to them from afar, start small talks with them, and listen to them but I don’t do those anymore. That is sad but I can’t help but be wary. I can’t help but fear that I might be meeting somebody like Anne again.
I still keep my old friends (the ones in the picture above) and I am somehow still open to having new friends but it won’t be that easy to be friends with me now. I just don’t have to like a person but that person also should earn my friendship. I still hang out with people, go out with my classmates, spend time with colleagues and friends of my husband, and meet people but it would surely take more for someone to be my friend.
Read MoreAt the Austrian Party
My husband has never been in Austrian Expat Party until yesterday. Last Sunday was Austria’s National Day so the embassy held an Austrian gathering on Monday evening. We knew about the party weeks ago and hubby was so looking forward to go there. We even planned to go there in our traditional Austrian clothes but he chickened out a few hours before the party so I needed to shop for another dress.
The party was OHHH—-KAYYYY. Food was great but I would have enjoyed it better if we were sitting down while eating. There were no chairs! There were these high and small rounded tables for people to gather around and drink but that was all. When dinner was served, people have to wait for their turns so they can have a part of the table where they can put their plates down. That was really disappointing for me more so because I was wearing a pair of high-heeled shoes.
I was not very comfortable in the party but I thought it was okay because I am sure that most of the people there were also uncomfortable. Sure, they tried to mingle with each other but they leave the conversation as soon as one comes and butt in. haha. It was all too shallow for me. I am glad that the group (me, my husband, and his colleagues) stayed together the whole evening. There were people coming to the group to have a chit chat but none of them stayed long.
It was actually kind of nice at the beginning because there was a free flow of wine (haha) and people were really nicely dressed. It was not my kind of party….it was actually a little bit phony for my taste but it was altogether kind of fun because I get to observe people in their phony moments (wink).
Read MoreWhat a Leech!
I feel utterly disregarded and taken advantage of.
I “HAD” a friend. I used a “past tense” because there’s no more friendship between us. She’s nothing to me now but a LEECH. Yes, that’s how I see her and she cannot change it anymore.
Now that I think of the past, I realize that she chose me. Why? Because I am married to an Austrian Engineer who is friends with other European engineers. Befriending me will give her contact to my husband colleagues. She belongs to a very poor family but I didn’t look at that. I was actually amazed by her that she managed to finish her education. She seemed nice so I befriended her and was all nice to her. I gave her clothes just so she has something nice to wear to our dinners and parties. I treated her as a friend, taught her some things, build her up, invited her to activities, and help her in any way I can.
But she planned all this—to get into my circle and find herself a rich boyfriend. On our first meeting, I warmed up to her immediately and she was all nice to me (now, that I think of it… it was more like kissing my ass). Because I am naturally friendly, I invited her in our home and to some dinners we had with my husband’s colleagues. After a while, she finally met my husband’s good friend and after two nights of meeting him, they became a couple. It was all a shock to me how easy she was but i was naive. I didn’t think for a moment (only now) how cheap that was of her. After a month, she started it–she asked money from him. It was just a small amount and nobody minded but then it happened again and again and again and after 8 months, I can’t take it anymore. She’s obviously screwing him for his money. Why would she do that? Well because she has like 6 siblings back home and she needs to support her aging parents, send two younger siblings to school, plus support her adult brothers who have their own families but are without jobs. Imagine the weight on her shoulders?!? The aging parents and the young siblings I can understand but her older brothers? She earns 500$ each month. If she send 250$ back home, it’s already a big amount and should be enough to support her parents and two younger siblings (whom, I believe, don’t have extravagant life). The remaining 250$ should be for her, for her bills and personal expenses. In China, specially the city where she lives, 250$ is more than enough for a single person. If I were her, that’s what I’d do. I would do my “obligation” to my family but I would not and never will, tolerate the laziness of my brothers. I would not hold myself responsible for them and for their family and I would not have my boyfriend support them too.
But she’s different. She sees herself as the saving grace of the whole of her clan. When I finally told her that I can’t take her gold digging( I didn’t actually use those words but yeah… that’s what I meant) anymore, she got mad. I know for sure her boyfriend is not okay with the idea that she sends HIS money to her family back home. Her boyfriend is not exactly rich but is always happy and willing to support HER… only HER and not her brothers. I told her what I think. I told her that it is not right what she does. then she said I shouldn’t mingle with their money issues! Ha! Why she’d tell me this now? She is all sweet and nice every time she asks me for a favor. They (she and her boyfriend) asked me several times to deposit money to her bank account because they are not together at the moment. He’s busy with work and can’t be bothered to deposit money to his girlfriend’s bank account so they ask me to do it for them. Their money issues were never a secret to me and now she tells me I should not mingle with their money affairs! What a thick face bitch! I am not miggling with their money affairs! I am just saying to her that what she’s doing is wrong and I don’t like to be a part of it anymore because by depositing the money to her account, I feel that I am helping her in her gold digging project and I can’t take that!
So anyway, she got mad and accused me of being envious of her because according to her, my husband does not let me do what she is doing now and that my husband is only good looking—that’s all. And to make things worse, she told a group of friends and acquaintances that I am like this. Was fuer eine Schlampe! (What a bitch!)
For one thing, I only told her what I think because I was hoping she’ll see it the way I do and will probably change. She cannot do this to her boyfriend because if they were to be together forever, they have to think of their future too. I didn’t tell her boyfriend because I don’t want him to think badly of her or of me for telling him about it. I talk to her directly about this but she’s the way she is—a gold digging bitch who will use anybody to get where she want, want she wants, when she wants. She has ambitions—to build her parents a house and send her siblings to school. Those are not bad. But I hope she’ll do it by herself and not depend on somebody to do it for her.
So now you understand. She is a leech. She shits on me now because I am no use to her anymore.
P.S. This post is unedited and uncensored. I dont normally curse and say bad words, but i think you’ll understand.
Read MoreImmer Wieder Oesterreich!
I am not a big sports fan but surprisingly I did enjoy following the recent European Masters Football Tournament. It was not the game that lured me into watching almost all of the matches but it was the people who are passionate about football and their team.
I was amazed by how the people showed their support to their national teams –they painted their faces, hang their national flags (anywhere), wore patriotic shirts and funny national costumes, invented cheering songs and rhymes, paraded on the street, etc. I also remember seeing several mobile homes in the autobahn obviously being driven by sport enthusiasts from all around Europe driving to Austria (and Switzerland) to witness their teams play… not to mention the reported number of private jets landing in Vienna Airport causing major air traffic and several flight delays. And I don’t know how true this is but a friend of mine was in a train with some Italian football fans and they told her that they have quit their job (because their boss didn’t give them a longer leave of absence) just so they can follow the tournament. How crazy and extravagant!?! So really, Europeans are all out when it comes to giving support to their team.
I chose to root for Austria and my husband who is not a sports enthusiast himself was also influenced to root for his national team but when Austria was eliminated, he lost interest right away.
So anyway, after watching Austria’s first game (where they lost), I was (still) convinced that they’ve got a chance (to go up all the way to the semi final at least) and they’re not as bad as the Austrians themselves claim. The Austrian national team has the reputation of being one of the worst national teams in Europe and they only qualified to play in tournament because they were the host nation but they’re really not that bad. Their defense is excellent! If only they were also trained to score a goal (haha) and not just to stop the other team from making a goal… they would’ve made it. (I could go on and on about my opinions on the games but I am sure that you wouldn’t like to hear football analysis from someone who knows too little about football so… :-l
It was cool to be in Austria during the EM but it would have been cooler if the Austrian team won or if Austria won their match against Germany at least.
Read MoreTalikogenic
Talikogenic is a Filipino made up word that became popular around the time when I was in high school. It consist of “talikod” means “back on” (as in “don’t turn your back on me“) and “genic” from the word “photogenic”. Like Photogenic, which means somebody looking nicer in photos than in reality, Talikogenic is somebody who has nicer looking back view than front view.
